Dealing With Being Dumped Is Hard, 6 Helpful Tips

Published: 27th October 2009
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When the one you love and depend on tells you that they don't want you anymore is one of the most difficult situations you have to deal with. It is sad, it's confusing, and it's just really painful and it hurts all the way to the bone. There are many ways, some good some bad of dealing with being dumped unexpectedly. The course you take will play a big part in determining how quickly you will move on with your life. Dealing with being dumped is hard and much of your dignity and self respect can still be intact when you do. Here are

6 helpful Tips:

1.) The first thing you need to do is cut all contact with your ex. That means no email, phone calls or texts. The no communication rule extends to your ex too. Even if it's them calling you, do not talk to them at this time.

2.) That rule doesn't count if you've just broken up and your ex has called you. You may want to talk to them because they may have changed their mind, but it's important that you don't allow yourself to be used by your ex. You need to be calm and keep your emotions under control.

3.) They may not want you back but they may also find they miss you are a little lonely. If you still have feelings for them it will make you very vulnerable to accepting whatever little attention they throw your way. Don't give in to it. You will only feel used and it will take you much longer to cut the ties and move on in your own life.

4.) Many of us put some of our own needs on the back burner when we are in a relationship. If your ex didn't like to do some of the things you liked to do, you probably haven't done those things very much, if at all. Start doing them now. Spend time doing things that make you feel strong and good about yourself.

5.) One very important thing is that you take control of your own mind. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking of your ex and what could have been. Keep a tight lid on your thoughts and only spend time thinking of good things about your life.

6.) Think about that college class you wanted to take but never did, or that gym you've been thinking about joining, etc. Any positive thought that will help you focus your attention on you and your future rather than painful memories of your relationship will help you move forward quicker and with less effort..

Dealing with being dumped is never easy but if you follow this advice you can make it through just fine. You'll be happier and more confident and ready for whatever adventure comes your way. Whatever may happen next in your life, you will always sense that it was a tragedy that you never made a complete effort to get back together. It is hard to find that special person. When you do find them you need to hang on tight through the good and the not so good. Remember too, making up can be a lot of fun!

Reconciling is not a sure thing, but if you are still in love with your ex and are willing to try, it will be very much worth it. For more help you can look into one of the Best Relationship Advice Systems available, at will take you by the hand and show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your ex love back in your arms, Especially if you are the only one trying. If you want to save your relationship, then you can start working toward the relationship you once had, or always wanted. Best wishes!

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